The Character of Asking
As Americans we are proud of our independence. Every year we celebrate it. And we applaud it when we see it in individuals. Really, who does not appreciate the account of someone who has risen above being shipwrecked or a castaway to become sea worthy again? Who does enjoy the true story of someone making the transition from abject poverty to becoming self-sufficient, to becoming a safe harbor for people in need, or to using their resources as a type of rescue vessel for people being pummeled by the storms of life? We enjoy hearing about rags to riches and the history of people who go from being downtrodden to standing tall and helping others.
But are we willing to admit the virtue that is seen in asking. There are three noble things that can be seen in the characters of people willing ask: contrition, courage, and compassion. Stay with this post for just a moment longer. In the words that follow I will endeavor to be both clear and brief. You may find in this short work something worthy of consideration and helpful for the sojourn. Please keep reading. I’m asking.
The Contrition to Ask for Advice (Proverbs 11:14; 15:22; 24:6; Isaiah 9:6; 1 Corinthians 12:8)
Proud people are loathe to look to others for advice. (This is especially true of the erudite and highly educated.) It is too humbling to admit that others have knowledge they need, understanding required for their undertaking, and information that would give them insights for life improvement. They can’t do it; they must be seen as seeing all, knowing all, and independent of the paltry pieces of info that could be gained from mere mortals through asking. But the Bible says that there is wisdom in getting counsel (Proverbs 11:14; 15:22; 24:6).
The Courage to Ask for Assessment ()
The greatest gains in character are only possible for those who have courage. It takes a brave soul to ask his wife where improvement is needed. Only the courageous can ask their parents or children for an assessment of their work in the role of son or father. And few are the friends who have the fortitude to request a review. Why are we not inclined to inquire about how we are doing in our various roles? There are two chief reasons: (a) arrogance and (b) cowardice. Bear with me.
The Compassion to Ask about Assistance
In His grip by His grace,
Roderick L. Barnes, Sr.